The Semiotics of Semen
A post over at AlexSuze on Bukakke got me thinking. Semen is semiotically heavy - especially in erotica. Yes, come on, admit it! Cum isn't just cum. The load, to put it coarsely, is loaded.
I've heard some men be very disingenuous about this, and it annoys me. "It's just semen!" they wail. Either they're so stupid to have given it no thought, or they're being nauseatingly coy.
I'm not going to get into the actual physical components of semen. You can read that here, if you're interested. But it is the prime carrier of male genetic information. That in itself makes it powerful, symbolically. All the accumulated genetic details of all your ancestors just ended up on someone's tits. Don't pretend that doesn't matter.
It gets more interesting from a cultural perspective. The Old Testament rates semen on the same level as blood in terms of problematic fluids. Problematic because they are at once life-associated, and can render a person ritually unclean for performing sacrifice in the temple. Plus there are the strict prohibitions against wasting it on fallow ground. And yes, no matter how beautiful they may look to you, my tits are definitely fallow ground.
With the rise of Christianity, it got stranger. If sex for anything other than procreation was lust, then the more permanent physical manifestations of it must also be wrong. What is that sperm doing outside your wife's womb? Put it back in, immediately! Disgusting!
The only reason why Christians don't have the same hang-ups about female effluvia (lubricant) is because most priests knew fuck all about it. In fact, you just try and google the components that make up girl juice: good luck. You'll have problems even pinning down a search word.
But... back to the topic. If semen is ritually unclean, an artifact of lust, and the bearer of your genetic identity to boot, then buddy, it matters. And where and how you use it matters too.
Semen plays a significant semiotic role in many of my stories. I chiefly use it the way most erotica writers do, as evidence of desire sated. But I also love the purely sensory aspect of it: that hot, wet streak that hits skin at the height of passion, or the rip of the flood tide buried inside. In the scene, I envisaged it as a physical thread of desire between Alex and Sophie.
Shudders took her over as the pleasure washed through her. In the midst of the neural storm she heard him grunt, and she glanced down to watch as he came: hot pulses of fluid spurting onto her neck, her chest, running down over her breasts as he squeezed himself, his body convulsing. (The Waiting Room, Chapter 1)
In Divestiture, which some of my very old readers were unfortunate enough to read, I used it as a mark of membership:
He pulled her back a little and smiled, bringing his other hand up to her neck, wet with his cum. He laid his wet fingers there and slid them down into the hollow of her throat, leaving a trail of it in the wake of his fingertips, she felt it chill and go tacky dry on her skin in the air.I also use it more subtly in Gaijin as a form of female rejection (a sort of love me, love my cum in reverse):
"I mark you, little bird."
The first time, he shuddered. The next, he made a little sound and jerked. It only took a few more swallows until he grunted, his hands balled into fists around her hair, and he erupted into her throat.And again,The initial spurt caught her by surprise and made her gag. Salty, hot fluid flooded into her mouth as he pulled out of her throat. She let it seep from her mouth around his cock while he kept coming. (Gaijin, Chapter 1)
What I have never done in any of the erotica I've written is use semen in humiliation. Not because I don't acknowledge that it could have that function, erotically, but because I've never written a character, male or female, who was so ashamed of sex that they'd see being marked with it as humiliating.Jennifer's breathing slowed as the adrenaline born of fear and sex ebbed. As the roar in her ears died away, she could hear him breathing - evenly - as if nothing had happened. As if he were just a normal person lying down for a rest. She made as if to speak, but she could think of nothing to say that would make any difference to him, as if there was no language to bridge them, as if he were another species of animal. Something with teeth and claws lying beside her, with its own impenetrable reasons for the violence it wrought.
Feeling the wetness between her legs, a visceral disgust crept up her spine until the thought of having this man's fluids inside her for one more second would, somehow, like a venereal disease, leave her permanently insane. (Gaijin, Chapter 4)

on shame and humiliation. I think it's incredibly sad when that is a huge block wrt sex, etc. However, I do think it would make an interesting story line - how it was embedded, how it was experienced, how it was eradicated (or, if not eradicated, how it was made manageable.)
Regarding cultural association, I still don't quite understand how semen is unclean when it comes in relation to a woman - even given the biblical explanations. The way I read it from the old texts, semen was used to render a woman unclean, even if she was raped. Basically, the two themes of war, blood and semen, were about claiming territory; blood was about shedding blood for actual territory, and semen was associated with rape in claiming women as territory. For me, from the very beginning, this imagery was extremely problematic (not to mention very highly patriarchal).
I think this is why I don't see semen as a problem whether on a woman or in a woman. To me it doesn't humiliate her if she gives her consent. Many women actually enjoy the taste and feel of semen, so why should it be wrong?
Bukkake was originally about shame and humiliation. It was a punishment for adultery. It was about everyone showing their contempt. It has all the elements you mentioned: group ritual, symbolic significance, cultural power, physical impact.
Yet it seems to me that it was fundamentally dishonest.
This action is not the dispassionate administration of punishment. It can only be delivered through arousal.
What message do men send to themselves when they choose to manipulate themselves to ejaculation in a group display?
The intent may be the humiliation and degradation of the woman but it is fueled by misogny and delivered through an act that is more closely linked to homosexual fulfillment than heterosexual desire.
BTW, Fallow Ground would make a great story title.
Oh, Mike!
Your intellect will always be a delight to me.
Interesting that supposedly this practice originated in Japan and first appeared in German porn movies.
Now, what do Japanese and German cultures have in common?
Thought provoking post. It brings to mind one of the struggles I deal with when I write about male ejaculation. Totally confusing. He comes and what he comes when he comes is cum. It brings back the nightmare of conjugating verbs in high school French. Cum can be the noun or the verb but it is jarring when I see it as "he is cumming cum" looks odd to me. "He is coming cum" makes sense.
Neither Strunk & White or the Chicago Manual of Style had the balls to resolve this grammatical cunnundrum once and for all.
Fuck, I really need a life.
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